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Emotionally dependent relationships are toxic and based on constant conflict. In these relationships, one partner, the emotionally dependent partner, puts aside his or her own needs in order to attend to those of the other partner. Little by little, he or she ceases to be himself or herself. On many occasions, the emotionally dependent person is the object of manipulation and psychological aggression on the part of the other person, which can go as far as physical abuse.  Emotional dependence is overcome like any other addiction. To begin with, the emotionally dependent person, whether they have left the relationship or have been dumped, must break off all contact with their ex-partner. This is known as zero contact and not only consists of not responding to messages or calls from the other person, but goes further, starting with blocking them on all social networks: WhatsApp, telephone, email and other applications. We can make an inventory of what hurt us during the relationship and why we have decided not to continue. In this way, we will have a good reminder when the mind assaults us with memories that make us nostalgic.  The aim is to think about our ex-partner as little as possible, so...

As Bessel Van Der Kolk states in his book "The body keeps the score", trauma is not just an event that took place in the past. It's also the imprint left by that experience on the mind, brain and body. For this reason, trauma therapy includes body and art work or mindfulness, to name a few.Illnesses such as fibromyalgia (FM) or cancer can be the result of trauma, as well as all types of addictions....

According to psychologist and writer Brené Brown, you cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviour. Nothing could be truer, for shame activates our most primal defence mechanisms, such as anger or submission, and is the antithesis of change. Criticism that humiliates, ridicules or questions our worth as a person creates a wound in the soul, it is destructive rather than constructive. The best weapon against shame is to share it and air it, because it feeds on secrecy. Have you ever thought about how shame affects you? Have you ever thought that maybe the same thing that shames you shames many other people? Have you ever wondered if it is you who shames other people? The following video by Brené Brown explains with great clarity this feeling that no human being escapes. Twenty minutes that are well worth it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0&t=24s...